Dear Birth Mom,

We hope this letter helps give you solace and assists you as you navigate your way through this journey. As we write this letter, we catch ourselves feeling anxious, confused, excited, and stressed all at the same time. This is likely because of the vast uncertainty involved in the process and difficult decisions and sacrifices that are made along the way. One thing that is unwavering is our desire to provide a good home and life for a child. We imagine that you must be having a lot of the same feelings.

This letter isn’t intended to persuade you into making a decision; rather, it’s an invitation to get to know us better as start making your plan. We are Matt and Cat and we live on a small farm in Strasburg, Colorado. We met during high school, and it didn’t take long for us to fall in love. We have been happily married for 10 years but have been together for 20. Through Matt’s military and civilian career, we moved all over and eventually landed in Colorado. It wasn’t your typical journey, and we definitely didn’t follow the traditional path. Through trials and tribulations, we both realized we needed to go back to school, later in our lives, to obtain our college degrees and we both enjoy successful careers in Systems Engineering and Insurance Management. We wanted to accomplish certain milestones in life before bringing a child into the world. When we realized that naturally conceiving was not an option there was the initial sadness; however, it quickly turned to joy and excitement as we began the adoption process. Matt was adopted at a very young age, and we understood how beneficial adoption can be for the birth mother, child, and adoptive parents.

Now a little bit about the home the child will grow up in. The amount of love in this home is indescribable by words. The child will be happy and will know that they are loved and wanted. It is the simple things in life that are important to us, a good home, good health, stable marriage, and beyond all happiness. If the birth parent chooses, we would like our child to know about their birth parents, the incredible amount of love they had for the child, and the sacrifice they made to ensure the child was provided for in life. We will teach our child about love, respect, hard work, and most of all how to have fun. They will spend their time experiencing life rather than watching it on television. Education is important to us, and our child will receive a good elementary and secondary education. College is a personal decision, and we will support our child in whatever decision they make.  Most important to us is that the child be provided with the opportunities they need to pursue the path they choose in life. We look forward to watching our child grow and mature; support them as they stumble in life; and, of course, will celebrate with them as they experience the many successes in their life.

Thank you for taking the time to read this letter and we hope it’s been helpful.  We hope you feel supported and loved throughout this journey. We admire your resiliency and for considering adoption. If you do decide to make adoption to us your plan, we want to assure you that we promise to respect you and whatever level of openness and contact you want to have with your child. We promise to cherish and love your child with all our hearts and souls and provide a safe and happy home. Know that you and your sweet baby are in our thoughts, and we hope you are filled with peace in whatever decision you make.